Shaming men for anal stimulation promotes inequality and homophobia

Anal sex isn’t anything new, and, regardless of sexual orientation, many men aren’t afraid of a little backdoor action from time to time.

We’ve seen various references to butt exploration in popular culture recently. There was an entire story-arc dedicated to “pegging” on Comedy Central’s “Broad City,” in which Abbi’s character was shocked to find out that her seemingly hyper-masculine, lumbersexual neighbor wanted her to strap up and pound him from behind in bed. In fact, this was even celebrated on the show–Ilana, Abbi’s best friend, was moved to tears and congratulated Abbi on being blessed with such an immense opportunity.

It was also recently revealed by Amber Rose that even Kanye West enjoys a little butt play.

“Awwww @kanyewest are you mad that I’m not around to play in ur asshole anymore? #FingersInTheBootyAssBitch,” Rose tweeted.

Kanye came back at Amber with a response nearly a full day later.

“Exes can be mad but just know I never let them play with my ass…I don’t do that…I stay away from that area all together,” West tweeted.

Yet not only Yeezus has had to fend off booty-finger rumors as of late. The “Champagne Papi” himself, Drake, is rumored to have let a couple visitors in through his backdoor. In addition, 50 Cent, one of the most hyper-masculine rappers of the early 2000s, tweeted “I got this freak in my asshole right now. Just thought I’d share that with you” in September 2010.

Following Yeezy’s Twitter spat, I couldn’t help but think about why other men like himself are so defensive once their kink is exposed. Perhaps I’m desensitized due to my queer identity, but it’s also 2016, and it shouldn’t be a huge ordeal every time it’s revealed that yet another straight guy likes his butt teased. I also understand, however, that the cultural construct of masculinity within our society provides little room for straight men like Ye to explore their sexuality beyond heteronormative boundaries.

This much was clear in the Internet’s response to Kanye and Amber’s twitter exchange. Shortly following Amber’s comeback tweet, Twitter was full of an array of disparaging memes, including the now-infamous hashtags, “#FingersInTheBootyAssBitch,” and “#KanyesAnalPlaylist.”

It seemed as though no one addressed the fact, however, that both Amber’s response and the subsequent memes that followed were dripping in veiled homophobia. Gay or straight, nobody deserves to be shamed for their sexual preferences. Amber mentioned Kanye’s kink in an effort to silence him, in an effort to undermine his masculinity. She was essentially implying that he was less of a man, less of a father and less of a husband, all due to the fact that he liked a couple fingers in his backside.

No man deserves to have his sense of masculinity undermined due to his sexual preferences. Despite the fact that society forces anal sex into a “taboo” category, it’s not any less natural than other forms of intercourse.

If Kanye, Drizzy and even the “Candy Shop” owner himself all like to have the crack in the back attacked every once in awhile then I’m not going to give them flack for it, and neither should the rest of the Twitterverse.

Illustration by Eva Rodriguez / Xpress

Illustration by Eva Rodriguez / Xpress

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  • According to the CDC, 40% of sexually active heterosexuals have engaged in anal sex. Considering lesbians and the fact that plenty of gay men don’t like it, this is most definitely a predominantly heterosexual phenomenon since heteros outnumber homos 10 to 1 or something like that. Heteros simply don’t talk about it much unless it’s an attempt to denigrate gay men. With some of them, it seems to be all they think about, anal sex between two men.