The Ins And Outs: Exploring the interplay between food and sex

In dim candlelight with a burst of semi-kinky spontaneity, you generously slather chocolate syrup onto the body of your partner. Using your fingers to blend it into your very willing victim’s body, you pause to sensuously lick clean one of your fingers with your tongue. You tease.

Thanks to the chemical makeup of the chocolate, phenylethylamine – better known as PEA – begins to work its way through your system triggering the release of dopamine, a natural neurotransmitter also released during orgasm, according to Emmanuel Ohene Afoakwa’s book “Chocolate, Science and Technology.” The result is a rush of euphoria and a natural high.

Working food into your sex play has never sounded like so much fun.

According to Maryanne Fisher in her “Psychology Today” article “The Relationship Between Sex and Food,” eating and sex involve all the same senses: touch, taste, smell and sight. Combining the two, naturally, heightens your already inflamed senses – especially when both food and sex are needs so fundamental, they’re practically primal.

“Food is love. Touch is affection. Food and touch are the basic ingredients of life,” said Tiberio Simone, also known as The Sensual Chef, during an independently-organized TED event in November 2010.

And the two ingredients blend together better than Simone might think.

Chocolate isn’t the only food that can increase PEA in your system; apples, tomatoes, almonds and cheddar cheese all do the trick as well, Fisher says in her article. Even spices such as ginger, which increases circulation, and ginseng, which is said to increase the libido, could play a part in some spicy lovemaking.

Get adventurous with your food play during sex. You never know what might get those internal chemicals going.

But here comes the obligatory word of warning: Not all foods are conducive to sex play.

It might seem fun to stick a fudgesicle inside your lady and guzzle up everything that drips out, but it pretty much guarantees her a yeast infection. Same goes for anything with a high sugar content, according to peer sexual health educator Nicole Sessions, 21. If you have to ask if it might cause her an itchy, burning sensation later on that means there will be no sex for over a week, keep it clear of the vulva and vagina.

The same goes for anything that’s oily.

“Oily or oil-based foods can tear condoms so even though you’re being safe and you’re having fun while doing it, the oil from the foods can cause a rip in the condom – even a tear that you can’t see with your eyes – so just be careful,” Sessions said. “Don’t put it by the genitals.”

Unfortunately, even flavored lubes, condoms and edible body powder can be dangerous near the genitalia.

But everything can still be immensely fun during foreplay, so bust out a strawberry-flavored condom for a pre-coital blow job and go to town with the whipped cream on the nipples to turn your partner into a sexy sundae. And then head to the shower together to wash it all off.